November 22, 2020

All humans are consistently seeking to meet their basic driving needs as well as the needs of their personality that drive them the most. However, each of us tend to value two of our driving needs more than the rest. Someone who’s top value is Certainty / Security will lead a completely different life than someone

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November 17, 2020

What Is This?This exercise works best to help with a fear related to taking action, making a decision or dealing with a situation you’d rather not have to face. It is meant to help draw out the specific causes to anxious thoughts and feelings you’ve been having, and help you turn them into useful actions.

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November 18, 2019

If you could give only one gift to a person in the hopes that gift would make the rest of that person’s life infinitely better, what would it be? Money? If so, how much? A home, or some other possession like a robot or a dog? An education, perhaps? How about good health?If I had

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November 11, 2019

My last blog post introduced you to my reasons for not using the term “self sabotage” to refer to a person’s actions. It’s an example of how important it is to understand what potential physical factors could be causing dysfunctional behavior in order to change it. The story I mentioned involved a woman who was binge eating

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November 4, 2019

I firmly believe that every part of your body was created for the purpose of benefiting you in some way – your health, safety, comfort, or pleasure. Therefore, I do not use the term “self sabotage” to refer to a person’s actions. I believe it’s important to understand why any dysfunctional behavior is occurring in

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